Let’s find ourselves.

As we all listen and say, Life is too short to spend time on grudges and conflicts, but what about the inner conflict which keeps on haunting you when you are actually disturbed by outward forces or circumstances. In order to get yourself heard why one has to go through all the turmoil. Your own near and dear ones are the people who gives you un-necessary disturbance and are not ready to listen. Even the things which should be understood on its own is at times too difficult to be understood. I think the difference lies in one’s mental level and level of understanding. It is observed that the people who bother you in life they don’t leave any stone un-turned to bring you down to their level. The stress robs away your peace and lowers your productivity for sure. So what should be done? What should be practiced and what should be adopted to deal with these kind of people? Day in and day out you are staying and struggling with them. At times I feel it is a real sorry state which literally steals your enthusiasm and throws you in a jungle of mess, doubts, judgements and at times hostility of thoughts and emotions. When I feel the same I realize that I feel like writing, reading, cleaning and doing stuff which gives me joy and liberate me. Anyhow I try to keep myself awake of these situations but at times I do fall pray of these circumstances and react but I feel that it is taking toll on my health. So I try and persuade myself to be a better human being and try not to retaliate and try to act later. The later action has given me good results and I felt that reaction and retaliation made my health worse. So let us all take good care of our mental health by indulging in various activities which provides solace and serenity.

An initiative to educate

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Dear all

Being an English teacher I always have the urge to teach English and help people to be fluent in English Grammar, composition and conversation. I feel that everyone should be well equipped in the language which is universally accepted and widely spoken. I think a person who is well versed in English language and have a good command over it will be able to achieve much in today’s technological world. So in order to achieve the same I have initiated to teach English language and conversation. I shall be starting with basic English Grammar like Vowels and Consonants and the phonic sounds which will help in the clear pronunciation too. I hope I shall be able to benefit many in the process. Those who are interested please do respond surely so that I could share my Zoom id with you along with the class timings. There are no specific charges for the same and whatever you are able to contribute will be highly appreciated.

Looking forward for a positive response.

Serve to liberate

Doing something for a noble cause is highly liberating and gives you a sense of belongingness. The ones who have in their minds to serve others are rare. The world needs people who are ready to serve but often it is found that these people are taken for granted for sure. Firstly, people doubt those people as they see that there is some selfish motive behind that and they also feel that the person must have some advantage or some kind of profit which he/she will get out of it. The world is full of people who are full of doubts which shows that their own intentions are not at all pure and do not want to see the world where good people show up. Whatever way the people think I suppose they feel it is in the same manner others think too but there are number of people who have kept themselves available for the humanity and equally are the number who are there to sabotage their good initiatives. So, let us see what we can do for the society to be a better place to live in.

Speak your mind

Speaking what comes in mind is healthy. It saves you not only from disturbance but also saves you from un-necessary stress and anxiety. If you feel that somebody is not behaving in a proper manner then don’t keep thinking of communicating and letting your emotion to vent out but let them vent out rather than sulking and spoiling your mind. This practice not only help yourself to be at peace but also will be helpful in healthy relationships in the long run. No doubt that all of us are everyday rolling in the roller coaster of life. At times. it is felt that in-spite of doing our best we are not given recognition and praise but we should see that let nobody should take us for granted. One more thing which I believe is that if we do not like someone or have ill feeling towards some of the people then the best way is to look at them as a human being, a life, who has come to this planet to serve the purpose of life. Detach yourself from that person as a relationship and treat him\her as a person . In that way I feel we will be able to treat that person without hate because from our relationships we expect a lot and exploit them a lot. So, let’s accept them as a soul and don’t hate them and don’t spoil your own mind for heaven’s sake. To conclude I would like to convey that,’ Save Your Mind At Any Cost.’

Lift life up…..

Come what may, we need to keep lifting our life up. Whatever may the circumstances be, whatever may the people around us say to us, whatever they do or not do, I think this should not bother us. Even after frequent arguments and grudges we hold against each other, whatever bothers us all, we should never leave the spark of good deeds. These are some of the things which let us keep our focus on our happiness. Creativity helps to keep this faraway in the long run. First thing first, we need to equip our minds with something which gives us happiness. To me its learning something new, creating something new and watching good movies. There is dire need to lift our life up everyday and should not wait for others to do it for us.

So, listen to your body, work out on regular basis, listen to beautiful and motivational videos, read and follow motivating blogs, admire nature’s beauty, relish good food, keep your surroundings healthy, spread love and bless everyone around you.

Let’s respect

Since childhood we have been taught to show respect towards each other. Respecting each other not only gives a feeling of love and nearness but also gives a sense of pride. We also teach our children to respect and love. But many a times we literally feel that when we teach our children how to respect with strictness they become so adamant that they take a U-turn and do not bother to respect anyone. I really fail to understand that why we forget to respect. I think when nobody listens to us and when nobody pays attention towards us we often loose our temper and show disrespect. At times I feel that in order to teach our children manners we overdo it or children do not want any restriction as they are too pampered. I feel that as a parent we should not avoid the things which children pass on to us in rage. We are parents and we are doing our duty well. Every parent try and do their best. So, let us maintain our respect and dignity at all cost.

Think Positive Always…

We are what we think. It is rightly said because whatever our thinking is we tend to act in that particular manner. Our thinking and acting pattern makes it as our habit. The habit is not a one day thing. It is a continuous practice of our thinking pattern. If it is so then why not to train our mind to cultivate positive mindset. One of the best way is to do creative things on daily basis. Whenever I am upset and feels that my thoughts are not constructive ones then I start doing something creative. For e.g. gardening, rigorous cleaning and after that watching something which gives me happiness like a movie or a documentary. In one of the documentary named ‘The brain that changes itself’ , it was shown that our brain remains plastic or changeable for our entire lives. They also explained that thinking changes your brain and one needs to be careful what one thinks. This experiment shows that thinking actually turns on genes inside neurons to form new connections between the brain cells. So It is great to know that plasticity is an intrinsic property of the brain. Hence let us guide the changes to see the change in ourselves.

HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS………

How many times we have realized that our belongingness towards each other make our surroundings peaceful, loving and warm. If we are not bothered about the feelings and well being of each other then what is the point of being in a family. It is truly said that Home is Where the heart is….If we take care of each other and understand what is needed to be done for welfare of each other then I think we have achieved most in life. According to me a successful person is the one who knows how to take care of one’s feelings and how to handle the emotions. If we are not able to resolve our issues and keep on involving ourselves in the blame game then we have achieved nothing in life. As we know that Charity begin at home so we need to see inside our homes first that aren’t we intentionally or unintentionally hurting each other and making each other’s life miserable. First we need to check ourselves where we stand. Are we doing our best? Are we doing our duties responsibly? Are we humble? Are we taking things for granted? if we can answer these questions then it is certainly the time to get up and pull up our socks and make our surroundings blissful.

Days of togetherness

Purab, my younger son turned 16 on May 3. How all these years passed is truly amazing to remember. I remember when he was just of 21 days we shifted to this house. I also remember those days when I did not keep well and my health did not allow me to take proper care of my younger son. My elder son Keshav was just seven years old and became suddenly mature with the arrival of his younger brother. Today I feel that I could have spent some more time with them as I used to be busy in the hustle and bustle of life. Time flew and today I remember all those days of togetherness of fun and frolic, of scolding and love. I remember the school days were quite hectic and then I used to think that they should grow up soon. But today I feel that why they grew up so soon. Anyhow I think we should have been given good parenting tips which could have helped us to be a better parent. I think it should be made a part of the curriculum to help children how to handle small children, how to help them grow emotionally, physically and mentally strong children. Many things I did not even know when my kids were small and I feel that if I would have known at that point of time I would have helped them to be the better children. So we should always read good books, meet good and inspiring people, keep on gathering knowledge so that we can utilise that at the right time by not repenting later on. The most important thing I feel that we should follow is our instinct rather than be carried away by other people. Following other’s advise blindly is the most foolish thing to be done. So go ahead, work on yourself, listen to your instinct and help your children grow as a happy child.

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